Pregnancy Etiquette
(By Beth Wilson)
Who knows what it is about a pregnancy that seems to give some people license to be inconsiderate and impolite, but strangers and even well meaning acquaintances will touch and probe areas that should be off-limits. Columnist Peggy Post, great granddaughter-in-law of Emily Post, has encountered and resolved many of these social blunders.
A crowded bus or train
"For sitting strangers, it is thoughtful, though not mandatory, to offer
and give a pregnant woman your seat," says Post. For pregnant women, if
no one offers, simply ask someone if he or she would mind giving up a seat.
To ask or not to ask
"Don't be too nosy," Post advises, who recommends avoiding questions
about the baby's gender and conception. "It's really important not to get
too personal. Take the lead from the expectant mother." In other words,
discuss the topics she addresses. If in doubt, don't ask. And questions like,
"Is it a planned pregnancy?" and "When are you due?" should
never be uttered because you never know if a woman is truly pregnant or, perhaps,
has already delivered her baby.
To touch or not to touch
For expecting mothers, field rude questions or the hands-on approach with patience
and humor. Post suggests saying "The sleeping baby doesn't want to be touched,"
"I've been poked or prodded enough," or "I don't like my stomach
touched, I'm sure you understand." Be considerate: Don't touch a pregnant
woman's stomach or other body parts unless given permission.
A miscarriage
For friends and co-workers, treat it like a death. Don't disregard it, offer
advice, or say something as insensitive as, "I'm sure you'll have another."
Instead, simply say: "I'm thinking of you. I'm sorry to hear about your
loss."
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