COMMUNICATION WITH BE BORN BABY WHILE PREGNANCY
When new baby is born, normaly the baby already 9 months old during mom pregnancy.
Deep laying of baby’s features of character, baby fundamental attitude
to the world take place during pregnancy and delivery in many respects.
In classic psychology, starting with Sigmund Freud, there was told a lot about
influence of birth emotional experience on a person’s state of pshychology.
A term of psychological birth trauma was formulated by Otto Rank. Stanislav
Grof developed this subject further. Our observations, formulated for 14 years
of practical work with pregnant women and new-born babies, persuade us that
a loving and emotional contact should be formed between a mommy and a baby during
pregnancy, so that a baby would be born ideally, easily and painlessly, not
traumatizing himself and mom. A possibility of “birth trauma” or
ideal delivery of a baby and the development of his positive features of character,
such as: ability to bear troubles, without resorting to alcohol or drugs and
antisocial forms of behavior, ability to overcome these troubles, i.e. the development
of a strong, active character, - all this almost completely depends on mother’s
possibility to achieve the above-mentioned loving and emotional contact between
her and her baby. If a loving contact between mother and baby wasn’t formed
during pregnancy, there’re significantly less chances for their emotional
reunion after birth. In this situation, a woman doesn’t feel love for
her baby after delivery, gets tired of him, and wants to stay separately from
him in maternity house. In future, this state often turns into a long post-natal
depression.
A successful process of delivery depends on the development of loving contact
between mother and child during pregnancy, as delivery process uses “hormones
of love” (oxytocin, prostaglandins), if a contact wasn’t formed,
a woman feels only pain while delivery, and she doesn’t support a baby.
If a mommy loves her baby and supports him during delivery, a pain is reduced,
“hormones of love” help perineum to open and relax.
Here are several methods that help to form a close contact between parents
and baby in a tummy, influence his physical and intellectual development:
“A gym in a tummy” – this is a figurative name of one of
the methods. The main loading
a baby receives while delivery, - is lack of oxygen. So, to teach a baby overcoming
oxygen hunger during delivery without traumas, pregnant women do specific breathing
and vocal-breathing trainings. Mommies study deep, wavy and vocal breathing.
Pregnant woman choses the rhythm and kind of her breathing exercises, proceeding
from her intuition and senses, so that it would be pleasant. Pregnant women
called this a “dance of breathing”. The second element of this practice
– is a combination of breathing with wavy body motions – “a
dance of breathing” combines with body dance. As a result of such exercises,
a baby becomes prepared for a “marathon of birth” and even if the
process of delivery is complicated, he overcomes overloads and is born without
traumas.
Clearly vocal practice – is “buzzing” (a long singing of a
sound). Sound vibrations go inside of a body, perineum and hips through thoughts.
Both this and previous practice is executed not only in gym, but also while
swimming in a pool.
Here’s another method of preparing a baby for delivery: after breathing
and vocal practices a pregnant woman comes into a special state of consciousness,
deep relaxation, quietness and inner silence. In such state, mommies direct
their attention to a baby through thoughts, and then a work with images takes
place. The images she would like to pass a baby, which she like herself, she
directs to him. This way she can form those cultural values and personal qualities
that are close to herself. At home a mommy can do this exercise taking a warm
bath and listening to music she likes. 20-30 minutes a day will be enough for
such exercises. (by Oleg Tyutin, Psychotherapeutist)
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